I am not an expert. This is just somethings that I have taken away from my current relationship that I feel is working. If this doesn't work... well you know.
Forget the toilet seat being up or down, clean the damn bathroom.
Pubes are nasty. Toilet paper rolls don't change themselves. Cleanliness is next to a happy relationships. Don't let a little mess go a long way. She/he does not want to clean the dishes all the time. She/he won't clean all the time make it day, you both can clean.
Social networks can be used for good or evil.
Keep messing around and not texting your boo back cause its cool. You gone be cold and alone. Get your priorities straight. Yes, your "talking", tweeting, or chatting with whomever, but they are not on the way to your house with a 12 pack of your favorite beer and chicken.
Do you know how cheap a date is?
Going to different places is easy, finding it is hard. Get groupons or living social make it happen. There are so many cheap ways to make her/him feel like you're doing something just for her. If not for him/her than for you. You can do stuff that you like, maybe she/he might like it. There's everything from paint ball to race car test drives and messages to pedicures.
Take a day off.
Get friends, do things by yourself. You being up under your boo ain't going do anything but annoy you. Relax you know that football you love to watch that she doesn't, watch it now, or that Housewives of Basketball in Hip Hop you can't live without watch it. Go out with your friends, pamper yourself, do nothing, just do it with out your other half. Too much of a good thing can be bad.
You can't teach an old dog new tricks.
No she will not LEARN how to play COD and he won't love reality shows. Get over it. You're not building a perfect spouse, let them have things that you don't like there's no way you're going to like everything they like. Try not to cry about it.
Don't put your feet up.
Getting comfortable is the number one mistake. Too soon and they will venture else where. You have to act like its the first date for the rest of your life. Don't get settled in soon as you're not paying attention she/he could be gone.
Have fun.
I think this is on every list I will ever do. It's not a job it's a lifestyle. Do with it as you please.
Be as weird as you want to be.
Inside jokes are great, who cares if her/his friends know what you're talking about. This will make you closer and build memories.
Take pictures.
Speaking of memories, take tons of pictures. I never like taking pictures but it is always good when you have a picture in your wallet (what is now your phone).
Do not train them.
This is not an ownership. It's a relationship. You can't make them into your dream woman/man.
Monday, November 26, 2012
Friday, November 23, 2012
21 Things to do before turning 21
1. Finish high school/get your GED.
2. Learn to read. Yes you can graduate and not know how to read. If you don't know a word, look it up.
3. Forget everything about high school. Those cool kids at the cool table don't matter years from now. Only 1 or 2 will make it to be someone you see on TV if your lucky.
4. Always use a condom. No one wants to be a parent before 21.
5. Have fun.
6. Just because you don't have PE any more don't stop playing sports/working out.
7. Your parents are going to get on your nerves. It happens.
8. Explore the world, women/men. Don't just sit at your mom/dad/parents house.
9. Get some bills, while you have disposable income staying at your parents/living for free. You'll learn how to budget.
10. Relationships are for old people. Settle to early you'll miss out on the good stuff. Date tho, don't be a loner.
11. You're not independent, if you're living with your parents.
12. Learn to listen. Take in as much as you can now. By the time you turn 24 your brain begins to harden and learning is tough.
13. Don't believe everything you read on the Internet. Learn to research things so you don't look dumb.
14. Establish a good foundation of friends. There's nothing better than you and a bunch of people you hung out with sharing old stories.
15. Don't text, tweet, Facebook, FaceTime, or anything and drive. Nothing is that important that you should take your eyes off the road.
16. Get some good cleaning habits. Learn how keep a place tidy. We know you just left your parents house since your drawls are on the floor.
17. Go to a lot of different kinds of concerts. All of them rock, pop, rap, trap... What ever ALL OF THEM.
18. Get some culture in your life. Go to a museum. Art gallery. Farmers market. You'll never know what's great until you try it.
19. Respect goes a long way. You never know who may offer you a job.
20. You're too young to be depressed. You have the rest of your life for regrets.
21. Time management. Always know what you're going to do. Nothing worst than being late to a job interview.
2. Learn to read. Yes you can graduate and not know how to read. If you don't know a word, look it up.
3. Forget everything about high school. Those cool kids at the cool table don't matter years from now. Only 1 or 2 will make it to be someone you see on TV if your lucky.
4. Always use a condom. No one wants to be a parent before 21.
5. Have fun.
6. Just because you don't have PE any more don't stop playing sports/working out.
7. Your parents are going to get on your nerves. It happens.
8. Explore the world, women/men. Don't just sit at your mom/dad/parents house.
9. Get some bills, while you have disposable income staying at your parents/living for free. You'll learn how to budget.
10. Relationships are for old people. Settle to early you'll miss out on the good stuff. Date tho, don't be a loner.
11. You're not independent, if you're living with your parents.
12. Learn to listen. Take in as much as you can now. By the time you turn 24 your brain begins to harden and learning is tough.
13. Don't believe everything you read on the Internet. Learn to research things so you don't look dumb.
14. Establish a good foundation of friends. There's nothing better than you and a bunch of people you hung out with sharing old stories.
15. Don't text, tweet, Facebook, FaceTime, or anything and drive. Nothing is that important that you should take your eyes off the road.
16. Get some good cleaning habits. Learn how keep a place tidy. We know you just left your parents house since your drawls are on the floor.
17. Go to a lot of different kinds of concerts. All of them rock, pop, rap, trap... What ever ALL OF THEM.
18. Get some culture in your life. Go to a museum. Art gallery. Farmers market. You'll never know what's great until you try it.
19. Respect goes a long way. You never know who may offer you a job.
20. You're too young to be depressed. You have the rest of your life for regrets.
21. Time management. Always know what you're going to do. Nothing worst than being late to a job interview.
Sunday, November 1, 2009
We Can't Be Friends
OK I hear this a lot: "let's just be friends" Sorry lady there is no such thing. Being friends wit the opposite sex is damn near impossible the reason I say "damn near" is cause you have to add in the homosexuals. Having a strictly platonic friendship is like a dream to every woman in the world. It's like turning a bad boy good. Ok so what if you and your home boy been down since under roos but that don't mean he don't want you! In all truth there is no way! If a guy walks up to randomly and seems friendly it's to get in your pants eventually. He is trying to get to know you true, but he is trying to get to know your clothes on the floor too. You can be anywhere and it could be during any event no man is going to be your friend for long!
Today I was talking to a chick and she says we should go to the movies. I say no you have man it's a waist of time. She is shocked by this answer! Hello you forgot who you are talking to? Hold on, hi my name is Jody! I don't do girl/friends! That makes zero sense! I ain't walk up to you because you LOOKED like you have a great personality! No I walked up to you cause I wanted to get inside you. Ok that's a little brut-ish but it's the truth. 99.9% of the time I walk up to a chick it's not to be her friend. The same goes for every man. He can lie to you and himself and say yeah I just want to be your friend but that's not how it goes down.Now when your dating a guy and he says the chick is his friend yeah it's possible but anyone new that's not the truth same thing applies she looked good and he wants to see what she looks like with no clothes on.
So in the end we cant be friends it just doesn't go that way. The funny part is that after I asked this question it ONLY WOMEN who thought that you can be friends!
Today I was talking to a chick and she says we should go to the movies. I say no you have man it's a waist of time. She is shocked by this answer! Hello you forgot who you are talking to? Hold on, hi my name is Jody! I don't do girl/friends! That makes zero sense! I ain't walk up to you because you LOOKED like you have a great personality! No I walked up to you cause I wanted to get inside you. Ok that's a little brut-ish but it's the truth. 99.9% of the time I walk up to a chick it's not to be her friend. The same goes for every man. He can lie to you and himself and say yeah I just want to be your friend but that's not how it goes down.Now when your dating a guy and he says the chick is his friend yeah it's possible but anyone new that's not the truth same thing applies she looked good and he wants to see what she looks like with no clothes on.
So in the end we cant be friends it just doesn't go that way. The funny part is that after I asked this question it ONLY WOMEN who thought that you can be friends!
Wednesday, October 28, 2009
Do My Ladies Run This...
I was on YouTube.com one day and ran across this ABW (Angry Black Woman). She had a 10 min rant about the "Power of the Penis". If she wasn't so upset she would realize that it is the vagina that runs this. OK I know I am a man I loves the vagina and all that is attached to it, but I know the truth. Women don’t understand that men do things for women and not anything else. You listen to music, look at the TV, and even read a magazine.
It’s funny to me how this one woman actually was saying things that I have heard from other women. I mean, I can come off a tad angry but in truth I’m not, I just speak from what I see and know is true. I know when I listen to music it’s the same thing: “Money cars/clothes and hoes” (Ok yeah don’t get uptight). Cars/clothes represent the material things you have. Money and car/clothes get women you cant have women and car/clothes or women and money. Any way you don’t hear that many songs nowadays that put men on a pedestal, but you do about women. There are tons I am going to name a few: INDEPENTENT WOMEN, 5 Star Chick, and anything Beyonce. So as you can see music to me is even majority targeted to women.
Do you know what TV shows are popular now? The shows that a made for women from what I hear. They are a lot of shows just for women and even a WHOLE channel (Lifetime or WE). Not only shows and channels are, but the commercials for women. I remember when the only person in the car commercial was a man, or you look at a beer commercial and it was the same way. I am not upset because I like to look at women. About 70% of the buying powers are women so women run the economy and the TV too.
Now speaking of buying power you have to think how are they getting money. Obviously it’s not from a man. They are climbing up the corporate ladder because men are lacking tin the education department. I am in college and I see that in the majority of my classes the women out weigh the men (not just in size). In one of my classes there are 22 students out of that that 2 of us are men. That is 10 to 1. The class that just graduated was something like 345 (small numbers I know you should see the school) and out of that 29 men. 5 of those men were in the Honor Society. That means 316 women with degrees are out in the working world taking jobs like candy from the babies (men) they get the high paying jobs.
So how I have come to this: the Educated majority, WOMEN the higher class, WOMEN the majority of the media, WOMEN. Since women have the education which is getting them the good jobs which gives them the buying power and advertisers know this which makes TV for women.
Like I said before DO MY LADIES RUN THIS MUTHA….
It’s funny to me how this one woman actually was saying things that I have heard from other women. I mean, I can come off a tad angry but in truth I’m not, I just speak from what I see and know is true. I know when I listen to music it’s the same thing: “Money cars/clothes and hoes” (Ok yeah don’t get uptight). Cars/clothes represent the material things you have. Money and car/clothes get women you cant have women and car/clothes or women and money. Any way you don’t hear that many songs nowadays that put men on a pedestal, but you do about women. There are tons I am going to name a few: INDEPENTENT WOMEN, 5 Star Chick, and anything Beyonce. So as you can see music to me is even majority targeted to women.
Do you know what TV shows are popular now? The shows that a made for women from what I hear. They are a lot of shows just for women and even a WHOLE channel (Lifetime or WE). Not only shows and channels are, but the commercials for women. I remember when the only person in the car commercial was a man, or you look at a beer commercial and it was the same way. I am not upset because I like to look at women. About 70% of the buying powers are women so women run the economy and the TV too.
Now speaking of buying power you have to think how are they getting money. Obviously it’s not from a man. They are climbing up the corporate ladder because men are lacking tin the education department. I am in college and I see that in the majority of my classes the women out weigh the men (not just in size). In one of my classes there are 22 students out of that that 2 of us are men. That is 10 to 1. The class that just graduated was something like 345 (small numbers I know you should see the school) and out of that 29 men. 5 of those men were in the Honor Society. That means 316 women with degrees are out in the working world taking jobs like candy from the babies (men) they get the high paying jobs.
So how I have come to this: the Educated majority, WOMEN the higher class, WOMEN the majority of the media, WOMEN. Since women have the education which is getting them the good jobs which gives them the buying power and advertisers know this which makes TV for women.
Like I said before DO MY LADIES RUN THIS MUTHA….
Thursday, October 1, 2009
To Cheat or Not to Cheat
I have been talking to my EX lately, of course things of the past always find their way to the light. For me, its unfaithfulness not from me but from my "women-boo" so its always at the mark of my head what would make a person want/need to cheat. is there something wrong going on in the relationship, is there something that cant be fix or for me can you not wait for the return. Don't get it twisted i know that everyone cheats if they haven't they will or already have cheated. so it came to no surprise that I get a I hear on the phone "Jody I'm pregnant" Honestly that's not the first time I heard those words and the weren't ever for me. This is why I wasn't excited or surprised because I have been away from home for at least 4 months and she was 2 months pregnant. the obvious question from me is "who's is it?" Well the answer wasn't what I was expecting my "best friend". Not only did she cheat but she did it with my best friend "2 POW".
The reason for this is because I was gone too long and she had an itch that needed to be scratched. I totally get it because I wasn't there, she need the next thing to me. If my cousin was there she would've done it with him. The worst part I aint get mad I actually was OK. If most folks know how i am then they would understand too. I am not that sexual or don't do affection! Really I am the best boyfriend personality wise, but not physically.
Its not just women who cheat men do it too. This is just me and this is all I that I have. THE END
The reason for this is because I was gone too long and she had an itch that needed to be scratched. I totally get it because I wasn't there, she need the next thing to me. If my cousin was there she would've done it with him. The worst part I aint get mad I actually was OK. If most folks know how i am then they would understand too. I am not that sexual or don't do affection! Really I am the best boyfriend personality wise, but not physically.
Its not just women who cheat men do it too. This is just me and this is all I that I have. THE END
Friday, September 25, 2009
Compromise VS. Change
A friend of mine told me that she makes compromises for her "Man-boo". I asked "What do you consider compromise?" She told me that he doesn't like to go to "jams". Then she told me that she stopped going to "jams'' all together. I asked her if her "Man-Boo" asked her to so. She said "No I did that voluntarily". So then of course I asked were you happy with the choice you made? Did you slow down then stop or just straight up stopped? She says "At first it was rough, but I did it to save the relationship. And no, I just stopped going to ''Jams"!
See this is where this makes no sense to me in order to compromise both sides MUST come to an agreement. If I was in a relationship and someone did not like what I did then, OH WELL! Even though for a relationship to build you must compromise, I get that. So let me make an example of her. Her "Man-boo" doesn't like "jams" so what to do? Well ''Man-boo" you don't like them but "woman-boo" does here is a compromise:
How about one 'jam' a week. That is only 52 a year out of the 365 days of the year, and majority of the time not at the "jam" is spent with the "man-boo" or each other however you see fit. That to me should make everyone happy (no such thing). She gets to go to the "jam" and he gets his quality time (what a chump).
What she did in the beginning was a CHANGE. Her change was not going to "Jams" anymore. I mean she just came to a halt. From the outside looking in that looks like she alone made that discussion which happens a lot. Women make choices by themselves to "save" the relationship but as soon as things go wrong its "I did this and that for you and you do this and that TO me." But according to her, he never asked for her to stop she chose to and she was upset but he was happy so she was "happy" too. If she would have spoke to him about the situation it wouldn't get that far. Everyone changes but compromise takes time, patients, and understanding.
See this is where this makes no sense to me in order to compromise both sides MUST come to an agreement. If I was in a relationship and someone did not like what I did then, OH WELL! Even though for a relationship to build you must compromise, I get that. So let me make an example of her. Her "Man-boo" doesn't like "jams" so what to do? Well ''Man-boo" you don't like them but "woman-boo" does here is a compromise:
How about one 'jam' a week. That is only 52 a year out of the 365 days of the year, and majority of the time not at the "jam" is spent with the "man-boo" or each other however you see fit. That to me should make everyone happy (no such thing). She gets to go to the "jam" and he gets his quality time (what a chump).
What she did in the beginning was a CHANGE. Her change was not going to "Jams" anymore. I mean she just came to a halt. From the outside looking in that looks like she alone made that discussion which happens a lot. Women make choices by themselves to "save" the relationship but as soon as things go wrong its "I did this and that for you and you do this and that TO me." But according to her, he never asked for her to stop she chose to and she was upset but he was happy so she was "happy" too. If she would have spoke to him about the situation it wouldn't get that far. Everyone changes but compromise takes time, patients, and understanding.
Tuesday, September 22, 2009
How to Survive Phase I (Show and Prove)
So you just started talking to this guy and you realized that there is something you don't like. What do you do?
Well first off he had to have done something that you liked for you to start talking (that's a plus). But you know you want to get down with him so instead of speaking on it you become frustrated and annoyed. Now that's all fine and dandy but its only ONE THING! Why are you bugging?
Here are somethings that might work:
Well first off he had to have done something that you liked for you to start talking (that's a plus). But you know you want to get down with him so instead of speaking on it you become frustrated and annoyed. Now that's all fine and dandy but its only ONE THING! Why are you bugging?
Here are somethings that might work:
- You start off by saying things you like and dislike. For example: You are have a conversation and he says (they always do)"What do you like to do?". Now pay attention there are ways to say your dislikes and make them sound as if there were likes (I think y'all do this already). I like to stay at home and watch movies, I am a real homebody most of the time. That is an example of saying a dislike but as a like its a form of reverse psychology. Secretly you are saying I dont like to go out and party that much.
- Dont play slow ball in the beginning. Remember ladies this is PHASE I (Show and Prove) of the relationship. On both sides you cant come to weak you will dead it (relationship). Come to strong you'll seem desperate and he'll go running. But never I repeat NEVER let him set the pase. If it was up to him he would stay single doing him as long as posible (oh and dont think that not giving up the skins is going to make him want to see what all the excitement is about. NOPE he will get bored of the convos and the teasing eventually he will stop trying and leave).
- If you do decide to stop at PHASE I DO NOT LOOK BACK I say again. DO NOT LOOK BACK! If you do you will lose all home court advantage. Not even if he comes back wait until he does things your way or no way at all. If he doesnt meet you demands then its on to the next one.
- And the most important one KEEP YOUR COOL. DO NOT GET JEALOUS! If he still talks to other women its ok its his way (mens ways) of security. If you drop him he has back up but play him like dominoes, you give him cards he can play on so YOU can shut his game down.
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